Sunset over Cabo Frio (the Cold Cape), Brazil

Sunset over Cabo Frio (the Cold Cape), Brazil
where the warm north Altantic meets the cold south Atlantic. picture (c) phil marks 2009

Wednesday, 23 December 2009

What does 'Tactile' mean?

A big one this. Many ladies like to touch and make contact, hold hands. So do many guys for that matter. It tends to be more a female trait in western cultures. Less so in Arabic culture where men holding hands in public is normal and straight when they are friends. Perhaps also less an English trait in men – compare the English with the French, Italians or Spaniards. I’m a Celt, so not constrained by Anglo Saxon genes.

If ‘tactile’ is mentioned explicitly in the narrative part of the profile then it may mean that the lady has come out of a relationship where there was little in the way of hand holding, hugging and touching (there might have been at the outset of course, and it has fallen by the wayside as the relationship deteriorated). If you are not comfortable with highly tactile ladies, then be warned. They will not be happy with non-tactile guys.

This is also linked to ‘showing affection in public’, which I will come to later in the section headed ‘Turn-offs and Turn-ons’.

However, there can be another aspect, quite the opposite. I’m fairly tactile, and did have a great relationship with a lovely lady who was tactile too. However, on occasion, this was misinterpreted and led to difficulties. This was because there were echoes in my behaviour which triggered memories of a former husband. In that marriage, the guy being tactile meant one thing only, and often; also indicative of a great propensity to stray. For me, being tactile is natural and doesn’t need to lead anywhere. So, some things to ponder on there, particularly if you are not naturally a tactile person.

(c) 2009 Phil Marks

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